Maggie Lou and Phoebe Jane

Maggie Lou and Phoebe Jane

Tuesday, August 9, 2011

It has been a while ....

Sorry spelling and punctuation have left my skill set. Good luck :)

Wow, This raising twins thing has taken a little bit out of me :) Not a lot of free time to sit around and blog. However this is the second time my wife has taken the girls to Cambria and given me the precious gift of a night alone.

So like everything else in life I am learning a lot through experience. The main thing I am learning is no one knows your experience. Whether you have one baby or triplets, your first or fifth child, no one can predict or truly know your experience. Not all baby tips and tricks work. It is all trial and error (this is for you knew or expecting parents, you veterans are saying "DUH" right now). I believe the first year is all about survival. I have never understood how someone could shake a baby to death until I had the girls. Don't get me wrong we love the girls and are so thankful for them. I know that sounds horrible but both Jeannie and I have handed one of the girls to each other with that look in our eyes that says "if you don't take this child I cannot guarantee their safety".

The one thing I have realized that I never want to hear and I hope I will never say to new parents is,"oh I know how it is". Nobody wants to hear that , nobody wants you to top their experience. The best thing you can say is," that is so hard, stay strong it will get better," or "Can I help , it must be so challenging". I know my friends are getting tired of me trumping all their newborn stories. Sorry friends.

Now that I said that - TWINS IS WAY HARDER THAN ONE BABY- WE HAVE TWO, TWO, to make it fare we should at least have two other full time people to pull this off. Luckily we have had Marjie my Mother-in-law and many awesome friends.
Here is some specific props and love to people that have provided serious help to us!
Aunt Stacy and Uncle David
Aunt Suzy
Aunt Kristin and Uncle Eric
Uncle Bill and Aunt Michelle
Rebekah Law
Kelz ( like Madonna all you need to say is Kelz or Kells)
Kim Schissler
Kelsey and Whitney
Shelley King
Colleen Franco
Steph Zambo
Grandma Colleen and Grandpa Tim

Thank YOU!!!

Many nights I am deep in sleep dreaming about killing and invading Alien horde in the streets of New York city. Or looking for land from the crows nest of a pirate ship before I turn into an eagle and fly to freedom. When suddenly I hear the cry of a smaller bird back on the ship. No, it is a box of kittens, no wait .... and suddenly I wake from my peaceful sleep of about two hours to hear the cry of one of our beautiful babies. So I get up slowly and walk to the girls room. Then I figure out which one is crying, change her daiper and bring her to Mom to feed. And just as I relax on the foot of the bed, the other one starts crying. Then I do the same routine and bring the other baby to Mom. By this time the first one is done and I have to try and burp her and put her down before the other one is done. If I can do this all succssefully then Mom doesn't have to get up and If I can prevent Mom from getting up that is the goal. If Grandma is there I want to keep her asleep so that when the girls wake up at 5:30 she will entertain them for a couple hours so we can get a little more sleep. This is most every night.

At least I am not physically bound to be by the girls every couple of hours like Jeannie is. I would do almost anything right now to give my wife a full 24 hours off to sleep and be pampered at a spa. She so deserves it!

Just when I think, "Why the hell did we have kids?" I look down and see this.

I cannot wait for the girls to get older. I know people say don't wish it away but I am not a baby person. I want them to be little girls so we can go ride bikes and try and roller skate and do art projects. I know those days will come and go before I know it, but I am so excited. They are finally big enough to go on regular walks in the ergo carriers and almost big enought to cruise around in the BOB stroller. They are not quite 10 lbs yet and they are 11 weeks old.

I found out that there are a lot of people who actually read this besides my Mom. Thanks :) and I will try and do this more regularly.